guy story

I was sitting in my hut one day and a student came over with a very large man. Sorry I don't know how else to describe him. He told me that he saw me the other day and had wanted to talk to me, but thought it was rude to just to approach me on the street. So, I had to chat with him in front of a boy student who got to know what this guy was up to, but I had to be polite. It was agonizing. Then I found out that he is helping someone who I have been trying to get in touch with to help out on the library, so I went to their house to talk to the other guy. The large man came to our village to help them set up satelite dish and ask me to come back to their home at night to watch TV. hmmm, I politely said maybe knowing very well it is a no, but didn't want to be rude. Then he said if I didn't go there by 8pm, he will come over. I should've just said right there and then that I don't accept any man visiting me at night. For a long time, I didn't even let the boys in my family in my hut worried about people saying things. I didn't think he would really come to see me at night.

Of course he came right on the dot, mind you, Guinean are always late. I was like, shit. I really don't want to deal with this. I took out a flash light and sat outside of my hut with him in the dark, closing the door behind me. Tried to be polite and keep a conversation. It is hard to tell a guy off politely, let alone in a different language that I don't speak all that well of without offending him. I told him really it is not cool to come to see me at night, people can say things and I am a female teacher. I am super paranoid about not giving people anything to talk about. So, I thought I did a good job to tell him that I am not interested, then he wanted to hold my hand. I was a little freaked out. I told him that it was getting late, and I need to rest. He then wanted me to take some money. Now, that is just offensive. Certain say here if a man offers you money, it means. Shit, I don't even want to go there. Anyway, I sent him out of the door, and told myself to be more firm to tell a guy off, should something like this happen again.